Playing the princess game in heaven

 Johnna- I wrote this birthday message to you three days ago on your first heavenly birthday.  I was afraid to post it because I thought it had too much about Audrey in it on your first heavenly birthday.  The truth is; you had a big impact on Audrey in less than a year, and I know the impact you had on your family was even greater.  Happy belated Heavenly Birthday.

Johnna-

I wish you a first heavenly birthday today.  I envision heaven as a place where there is no cancer or epilepsy.  Amanda, Hannah, I and especially Audrey were always and are incredibly grateful for the time you spent with Audrey.  You gave her a voice.  You helped so many young kids within the autism community find their voice.  And you also listened.  You volunteered for the Superhero Center, which means so much for Audrey, Hannah, Amanda, and I and all the superheroes that you gave a voice to.   While the heaven I envision is one without the evils of cancer or epilepsy, it is one with two incredibly strong people whose experience with cancer and epilepsy made them stronger for the fight they you were a part of.  As I hope that we are getting closer to the heaven with no cancer and no epilepsy, just know that both of you have made progressed the fight against Mucinous Ovarian Cancer and Epilepsy and will continue to do so.  I am reminded of the video that Amanda took of you and Audrey playing the "princess game."  You gave Audrey a voice, like you did for many others.  I imagine you have conversations together like the princess game.  Except Audrey would never stop talking to you.  While Audrey may have a much more robust vocabulary than earthly Audrey, I still hope she says Bee for Belle, Nawwh for No, No for Snow and Yeah for Yes.  

I have rambled here long enough (not as long as Audrey would once her vocabulary increases), because I can imagine you have more birthday celebrations with loved ones in heaven.  As I wish you a first happy heavenly birthday, I wanted you to know that Audrey always seems to blow out the candles regardless of whose birthday it is. 

Happy Birthday

Jeff Cismesia

He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away." Revelations 21:4







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