January 6

   So a few days before January 6, 2024, I was reading a local newspaper story about the January 6 attack on the Capitol building in 2021.  Not sure if everybody can recite with great deal what happened prior to hearing the news. For me, I have a pretty good recollection of where I was when I heard the news.  I was at an appointment with Audrey in Madison.  We were in Madison, because Audrey had just been hospitalized in December of 2020 after a scary EEG.  The 1 hour EEG was in Rockford in December.  But when that EEG had shown significant relapse in seizures, we went up to Madison, since Audrey's Neurologist in Rockford, and all pediatric specialties were removed.





    So on January 6, Audrey and I were in Madison establishing a new nurse practitioner and then her new neurologist.  We would be with this neurologist for a little over a year.  While the events of January 6 evoke strong feelings for many people, January 6 is a tough day for me, because it represents over a year of not having a day without a seizure.  It also represents lost time and what ifs.

    Audrey fell asleep in the middle of our meeting on January 6, so while I was waiting for the receptionist to schedule the next meeting with her new neurologist, I checked my phone.  Then I realized what had happened.   On the drive home, I talked to Audrey and did not listen to anything regarding the capitol. I ended up driving Audrey home.  I took her to daycare, and I went to school.  I don't think I realized how serious January 6th was because I had other things on my mind.  

When I got to school, I checked multiple news site, and discussed how to discuss the situation with my co-teacher for our freshman contemporary world studies class. Over the next week, as more details kept coming out, it seemed my understanding of January 6 increased. However, it seemed like for the next 2 and a half years, we never really got more clarity on Audrey's status.

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